Motherhood is rough, and some days you just have to take on the role of bad mom.

Motherhood is hard work. We’ve all heard this before, and to tell you the truth, that statement is preposterous. Motherhood isn’t just hard work; it’s substantially overwhelming work. You have to be “on” all the time. There no real days off, even on the rare times that you can have a getaway from your children. You worry. You fret. You strive to be an even better mother than you were the day before. It’s liberating and exhausting.

Every once in a while, I decide to be the bad mom.

That’s right. I make the choice to make mistakes when it comes to my kids. I let them watch TV all day, eat cake for breakfast or wear their favorite shirt 3 days in a row…with stains on it. I get to the point of not caring about it all and keeping it all together.

My husband says that I have a unique type-A personality where I care so much about the order of most things. I care so much that I burn myself out. Basically, it’s a nice way of saying that I go over-the-top when it comes to taking care of everyone. He’s right. I don’t take the time to take care of myself  as much as I should. I get burned out, and that trickles down to my household duties. One time, the kids and I stayed in our pajamas all day and watched TV. The rest of that week, we ordered out. There was no cleaning of any kind. I gave up.

Luckily, it doesn’t take me long to break out of my “bad mom” rut. I get back to normal and back to our routine. I still end up having regrets about my decision, though. I think of how this behavior affects my children, and that they may view me in a way that would just break my heart. Then, I did the unthinkable.

I asked my kids their opinion.

News flash: they love “bad mom.” Bad mom takes her time. Bad mom doesn’t rush around, to get everything done. Bad mom is fun. Bad mom lets us have treats in the middle of the day. Bad mom picks the best cartoons to watch. Bad mom is really nice, especially after she takes a nap.

I learned a harsh reality after I had a chat with my kids. I need to slow down and let life run it’s course. I need to give me kids the option of dictating how a day will go, from time to time. I need to be the bad mom.

It’s OK to be the bad mom. She ends up making life so much better.


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Before I know it, I’ll have to deploy again. This reality is always in the back of my mind. With our new addition to the family, I can’t help but think that he won’t be even a year old when I pack my A-bag for another adventure, far from home. While this is par for the course in military life, it’s still extremely stressful. I’m a military mom. I not only have to work on raising my brood, and loving my husband, I have to keep my uniforms within regulations and qualify during my M16 training.

A brain can only hold so much.

So what happens when it’s time, yet again, to turn over the reigns to my husband and parents? During my last deployment, they were such an asset and helped me keep peace of mind. I knew my children were well taken care of, even though I was in the middle of a battleground. I still worried.

Every day, I worried. Bombs dropped all around me, yet I thought about my kids breaking bones or getting sick. I fretted over my husband getting hurt at work, and my parents having to take over parental duties. I thought about how I would be able to function if something happened to one or both of my parents while I was gone. Then I thought about me.

What if something happened to me? Does my husband remember where my living will is located? What about the power of attorney? Do my parents know where OUR will is located, in case they need it? What about our life insurance documents? While my husband knew my online passwords, my parents didn’t. That’s unacceptable.

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It’s digital peace of mind.

Not only will this become an influential part of my well-being during my next deployment, I’ll also know that all of this pertinent information will be safe. Estate Assist offers Estate Guard Security; an encryption developed by their engineers that’s very similar to those used by trusted banks and the US government. When it comes to protecting your account, they don’t mess around. As an offspring of a military man, and a military parent myself, messing around isn’t on my agenda. It’s comforting to partner with a brand that understands that.

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James’s Birth Story

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The birth story of our 3rd child, James.

It was 11am. I’d stayed up until 4am the night before, just like every other night. I heard the shuffling of the family around 8am, but decided to turn over and go back to bed. Something told me to get in as much rest as I could this morning. It’s amazing how your mind and […]

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Our First Year of Homeschooling – Curriculum

October 8, 2014
See how this family is taking on their 1st year of homeschooling.

Disclaimer: This is a long post. Well, 800 words isn’t that long, but I just want to warn you beforehand. Grab a glass of water and enjoy! We have endured our first month of homeschooling. It’s been quite an experience, and we are already seeing a vast improvement in our 4th grader. He’s been more […]

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Noise with Glitter and Dirt On It

October 6, 2014
While my girl does twirl and giggle, she's more like noise with glitter and dirt on it.

We’ve all seen the phrase online and throughout social media. Boys are noise with dirt on it. Yes, they sure are. But in my home, girl is just as loud and dirty. GIRL: Noise with Glitter and Dirt On It I’m not quite sure how this happened. She does have an older brother, but he’s […]

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How to Use Up Low Balance Gift Cards

October 3, 2014
This is a great tutorial on how to use up low balance gift cards. Bookmark it for after the holiday season!

Have you ever been so excited to receive a gift card for your birthday, the holidays, or maybe just as a thank you? You use it to treat yourself to something nice, but you end up not using the whole balance. You have 2.14 left on the card, but no idea how to use up […]

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I Was A Teenage Maniac

September 30, 2014
When it came to being a teen driver, I was a teenage maniac. If only I had a class that taught me the real lessons of driving. Now, there is one!

This post was written as part of my association with TeenDrive365 and the Toyota Teen Driver Safety Clinic. For more information on the Toyota Teen Driver Safety Clinic, please visit Although it may seem like it was many moons ago, it’s only been 14 years since I left my teen years. As one of the most confusing […]

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Mediterranean Couscous Salad

September 29, 2014
This recipe for mediterranean couscous salad is frugal, easy and great all year round!

I’ve been on a salad kick lately. Well, to be fair, I was on a salad kick all summer. With my interesting pregnancy palate, salads seemed to always hit the spot. I could junk them up by adding sliced chicken fingers and cheese, or I could keep them lean with grilled vegetables and homemade dressing. […]

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Chocolate Sour Cream Cake (with Peanut Butter Frosting)

September 24, 2014
This recipe for chocolate sour cream cake with peanut butter frosting will take care of any chocolate craving you may have!

Back in July, I wrote about how my first-born is leaving me forever. Ok, technically I wrote about how he turned 9 and how I missed his little baby cheeks. I also posted pictures of him blowing out the birthday candles on top of his chocolate sour cream cake filled with fresh bananas and peanut butter […]

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What to Pack in your Hospital Bag

September 22, 2014
A list of items every expectant mom should pack into her hospital bag.

As a new mom of 3, you would think that I have many of these parent, pregnancy, and labor must-do activities down. Well, I don’t. I do, however, know how to pack a bag. With each labor and delivery, I’ve been the queen of the hospital bag. Each time I’ve had to get it all […]

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