This is what Kristen has to say at the start of this challenge:
“The logical part of me thinks “two people = 50/50” when it comes to a relationship, but I can’t say I’ve ever actually seen that happen. Someone else is always giving more. Or taking more. And it’s never really even.
That’s not a bad thing. Life is fluid. So are relationships. You can’t split everything 50/50. I just don’t think it’s humanly possible.”
She really summed it up with that one. This is something that is prevalent in our relationship. Things most definitely are not equal in our household and we have established that this is the way it needs to work here. Hubby has fewer responsibilities than I do when it comes to running the house, but the ones that he does take care of I know I could not successfully accomplish. And vice-versa; Hubby had a rude awakening this past year when I had to spend more time at the Base, sometimes 1 or 2 weeks at a pop. He took off of work, and was Mr. Mom during each one of those times. Because I knew how it would be for him, I scheduled a day or two when my Mom would help him out with the kids. He said that if he didn’t have those days during the periods I was gone, he doesn’t know how he would have survived.
This challenge I didn’t do wholeheartedly because we already talked over this during our last anniversary. I don’t mind doing all that I do to keep our household running, but I made a point of telling Hubby that since I take care of everyone else, he’s going to have to do a little more to take care of ME. Make me take a day to myself, surprise me with a spa appointment to get a pedicure or, Lord willing, a massage; encourage me to call up my friends and spend a night out with just them. These are things I just don’t think about until I’m way too frazzled to accomplish any of them. Since that conversation, he has been doing a great job of taking care of me and lowering my stress level, if need be.