I just came from my now all-time favorite site, Pioneer Woman, and she posed a great question to her readers: are you where you thought you would at this point in life? If not, are you happy about it or do you regret the path you’ve made?
I love this question. This is something that Hubby and I discuss at least once a month. At the tender age of 10, I had my life all planned out. I had a serious interest law and was determined to go to law school after college. I wanted to go into corporate law(I know, I know but I swear i was only 10) and eventually marry and have maybe one child, around the age of 30. NEVER was the idea of entering the military in my head and NEVER was the idea that I just might find my soul mate before 30 and not at a law firm or some metropolitan bar. Better yet, I would have never guessed that I would fall in love at the age of 19 and with someone who lived 2 states away!
With all that said, I definitely don’t regret anything that has happened so far in my life. A housewife and mother at the young age of 26 was not on my outline but obviously it was in the cards. And you know what? Not only do I not regret it, I love it. I know in my heart that this is the path that I was intended to travel. If I would have traveled the path that I had planned for myself, I would not be a very happy person right now. And since technically I would have 4 more years before I marry Mr. so and so, I would be pretty lonely too :o)
Wonder what hubby says when we talk about this? He says that if he had not met me, he probably would be dead. This is sad but true. He was on a path where, although God and faith were a mainstay in his home, he didn’t really believe. Until he prayed for a mate that would mirror him and be strong where his is weak(this is exactly what he prayed). Then, later that month, we talked for the first time (online).
No matter what you may plan, don’t forget that the higher power already has a plan for you. I’ve learned to just trust in Him and laugh(after you cry) when life takes a right turn.
I always believe that what happens in our lives was meant to happen. I don’t love all the choices I’ve made in life, but I recognize that they all helped me become the person I am today, and I’m a-ok with that.
I think of my life choices as something that just had to happen but I would love to take some of them and change things around. When I was 15 I thought that I would be married within two years and have kids in a year afterwards. Then a year later I moved to USA.
When I was 25 I thought that I’d have my own home by the time I’m 30 but would spend my life alone (I was royally burned out by all wrong relationships).
So in two years I will know if what I think today will happen or not.
My plan was to move out of IN and get a teaching job, get married at 23 and have 3 or 4 kids by the time I was 35. However, God’s plan was for me to move home and be with Mom during her final years on Earth. I didn’t understand that at the time, but now I’m glad His plan worked out instead of mine. He even made it where I would meet a decent guy right before I lost Mom so I’d have something to look forward to!