A little over a week ago, I posted my qualms with creating and maintaining my stockpile inventory and the fact that sometimes, I just plain don’t feel like staying organized. Sometimes, I do get tired and I do feel drained. While many of my readers totally related and admitted that they often feel the same way, I did have a few that made comments along the lines of “oh, you’re young. It’s expected from someone your age. You have years to figure it out. Don’t worry about it.” Now, I know these comments were meant to get me to not feel so bad about my lack of discipline that day, but they bothered me. I didn’t understand why they did at the time but they just didn’t sit well with me.
As I sat in front of my laptop the next day, I immediately knew why I was so bothered. Age should be no excuse for the way you run your household. Age also should not be an excuse for the way you raise your family. I never realized it until that day, but I take pride in the fact that I am a 26 year old woman with a husband, son and household to run and I do it better than a few 30 and 40 year olds I have known for years. I do it better than family members I have known my whole life. This is just something that I am good at. This is something where I thrive and continue to get better and better. My age definitely has nothing to do with it. It’s my ambition and dedication that makes me attain excellence. Yes, I am talking about maintaining a home but it may be one of the most important jobs out there.
And I know that I am not alone in this. Crystal over at Money Saving Mom and Biblical Womanhood is only a few months older than I am, and she has accomplished more than many women who are twice her age. She, much like me, had to go through many trials at a young age and learned quickly from those experiences. She’s a wife, soon to be mother of three, public speaker, devout christian, and all around intelligent woman. And yes, she’s 27.
But I do realize that Crystal and I may be an exception to a rule. I have many friends in their twenties who may never experience the things that I have and may never have to take care of their own little families. But when they tell me that they are struggling to maintain a raise or promotion in their careers, I wouldn’t dare say to them “oh, you’re young. You have plenty of time.” I encourage them to reach for the sky and to do it right now. And if I can give constructive advice, I give it in spades.
Now don’t think me ungrateful for those that provide me with great advice already. I have one buddy that I met through the msn messsage boards who has children who are at least 15 years older than my boy and she gives me wonderful advice which I take to heart. But, she also acknowledges how much I already do and how well she thinks I do it. Not how well I do it FOR MY AGE, but how well I do it, period. I thank the Lord everyday for the advisers I have that are giving me that type of encouragement. Hopefully I may be able to find more of these great women in the future as my son gets older, my marriage advances in years, and I start to experience new things from both.
As Crystal recently said on one of her posts to older moms at Biblical Womanhood:
“…may I encourage you in something? If you want to reach out to us younger moms, don’t try to start a mentoring relationship by immediately letting us know how easy we have it compared to what you went through or by nit-picking the way we are mothering or parenting. Start by showing genuine interest and a compassionate, caring heart.”