When I think about life without kids, I immediately turn to work. Before I met my husband, I was addicted to work. I had 3 jobs, by choice, and loved being productive. Even when we got together, I still kept 2 jobs just to feel like I was contributing to society. Once I entered the military, I didn’t see it as my primary career; I had dreams of becoming a lawyer, and serving meant that I could attain that on someone else’s dime. If I had never had kids, I’m more than positive I would have graduated law school, finished up internship and started at a firm by now.
I also see lots of travel. Hubby and I seeing the world, living the life of a “newlywed” couple for years. There are so many places that we both have on our “bucket lists” and I don’t think we’ll be able to see them anytime soon.
I do see a bit of sadness with us as well. We are by nature “kid people,” having been the oldest, in both families, of lots of cousins. It’s difficult to go from being in a family where a new baby is introduced every few years to having it just be “you and I.”
I have to say, when I was so-called planning my life, I never thought it would take me down this path. Marriage was never in my future, but a kid was. By the age of 29, I thought I would have the world at my fingertips and only success on my mind. It’s funny how the whirlwind of a family can make you laugh at those “plans.”