My husband and I have been having a discussion about homeschooling for almost 2 years now. He comes from a family of teachers and sees the school system as something every single child should be a part of, if possible. He also had a stigma about homeschooled children. That is, until I dragged him into the world of blogging and introduced him to families that do it right. Finally, his view has changed. My view? I watch my son each and every year in our town’s school system and I don’t like how they handle my son’s special learning needs. They do the bare minimum. They start to care, but then gives it up during peek times like school testing, or right before school breaks. He deserves better, and while I’m not sure if I’m really the solution, I sure as hell want to try. But, this is such a loaded topic. I need more voices to help with this decision. So here’s the question I ask of you: should we homeschool?
We’ve had our son in this school system for almost 4 years. With each year, they’ve lacked at something when it came to my son’s education. When he was diagnosed with ADHD, we were adamant about them following the routines that were suggested by his neurologist. We did our part at home, but it always seemed like things were coming up short at school. Last year, he had a great year. The reason? He was with a teacher who had been teaching for 15 years and has a son with ADD at home. She knew exactly how to speak to me and to my boy. He excelled last year and we were excited about his success. She promised to pass on all of the routines, practices and notes to his next teacher. She did just that. The problem was that his teacher for this year is new. Now I have nothing against new teachers, but when they are more interested in getting through the lesson plan they created for the year, instead of working with my son who needs to not follow anything in that lesson plan, we have an issue.
There were similar issues during his kindergarten and first grade years. And just a few months ago, we started to see a big difference in his behavior. He’d had issues with his behavior when I deployed as well, and the school was not very accommodating to the situation, even when we asked them to please work with him during that stressful time. His current behavior is a blatant cry for help. He is acting in ways that doesn’t fit his personality at all. State testing is coming up, and he feels like he’s being left behind again. Hence, the lashing out. As a mom, I want to reprimand him, but as a woman with common sense and an intuitive nature towards the needs of children, not just my own, I know what he needs. He needs not to be there. His intelligence has also been suffering, since he learns differently and loves to become and “expert” in whatever his new learning obsession is that month. When you are deeply interested in science and you only get to learn it 3 times a week for only 40 minutes, you feel flustered. I don’t like my son falling deep into himself this way, and I think if we homeschool, things may be different for him and all of us.
But, this may just be a mama bear response. I’m still not sure.
If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Should we homeschool?
(Just a heads up: I would really love some opinions on this, but please keep it clean and contructive. Malicious comments will not be published. Thanks.)